Have you ever been so passionate, so hell-bent for something that all you did is work, work, work at it? And have you been so passionate in fact, that you were oblivious to the fact that it just wasn’t working? So you toil on. You refuse to give up and the spinning begins.
Can You Relate?
I know I can. When I want something badly enough, I throw myself in and will give it the good ol’ college try again and again. And I, and maybe you too, can get so caught up in the passion, the wanting it so bad I can taste it, feeling, I sometimes have a hard time recognizing when it just isn’t working. And I know, logically anyway, that I should let it go, but man, I want it! Bad! And the thing is, when we are so entangled in the emotion of wanting what we believe we should have, even though all the evidence proves we should just let it go, we actually can’t see any other outcomes. Our field of vision is like driving through fog as thick as pea soup.
Letting It Go For Peace
When we cling so tightly to that thing (relationship, career, wanting a baby) and it doesn’t unfold the way we want it to, we can begin to squeeze the life out of it, and, more importantly, ourselves. We bang our heads against a wall until we are black and blue and then focus on the bruise. We are so busy on that thing that there is no room left, no energy available, for anything else to appear. When we are stuck on this perpetual merry-go-round, we just want an answer. We just want relief and we think that if we just try harder or one more time,we will surly figure it out. Meanwhile, we are exhausted and missing out on our lives.
But Not Everything Is Explainable
But life cant always be compartmentalized. I know we want it to be. That’s us… humans…we operate from beginning, middle, and end. It’s just the way it is. We like compartments. We like certainty. But the reality is, not everything is explainable. Sometimes, even if we give it the best good ol’ college try, things just don’t work or add up. It’s just life. And when we are finally able to step back and see it differently for that first time (meaning we can actually see that as painful as it may be, we will be okay when we let go) you will feel a lightness, a peace, like you never thought possible. And that is when you will begin to feel hope. Hope not in that thing, per se, but hope that you will be okay.
So the next time you find yourself spinning in circles; tired, lonely and sad over a goal not fulfilled, do your best to just pull over and give the fog a chance to clear. Trust me when I say your view will be much better than fog. It may even be breathtaking!
Hope is the feeling that the feeling you have isn’t permanent~ Jean Kerr