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Ok, ladies, I was just scooting around my office, buttoning up everything for my upcoming vacation, when I dropped my phone. As I bent down to pick it up, I literally heard “Freedom” sung out from angels on high!! LOL, can you hear it?! I knew that soon, I would be shutting down all of my phone’s rings, dings, posts, sites, stories, social media…everything!!
Friends, I’m going rogue.
I am completely disengaging from social media, texting, and phone calls. That’s right, you read the sentence correctly! I need to unplug so I can breathe and reenergize on this vaca. Shit, so I can just be.
Have I completely lost you? Are you wondering if I am off my rocker?!
Look, I get it, some of you wouldn’t wholly unplug, and that’s totally ok! I have a friend who HATES that I do this! She wants to see me having fun. But for me, unplugging is precisely what I need and want.
So, where was I? Yes, yes, the dropped phone…which led me to think about social media, which then led me to think about how many people have a love/hate relationship with it.
Love it or hate it, social media is here to stay! If you are anything like me, at 47 years old, I’ve had to find a balance between staying engaged and total inundation. Even if you are in a different age bracket, it is likely you have some kind of struggles with social media.
Good news alert!! There is a way to engage in social media, so you don’t end up depleted…and even walk away energized!
Social Media Symptoms
Friends, if you are feeling any of the symptoms below, that is a sign that social media is running your life vs. making you feel good.
- FOMO: Fear of missing out. You are worried that if you don’t “take a peek’ at your FB or Insta page, you will miss out on something. Let’s face it, the very notion of the word “missing” suggests sadness, right?
- FONFI: Fear of not fitting in. You do not engage at all on other people’s posts, nor do you post anything on your own page. This is because you are scared you won’t fit in, look good, and/or be accepted and “liked”.
- FONBGE: This is huge, I mean HUGE. Fear of not being good enough. Basically, this happens when you’ve spent time mindlessly cruising social media, and once you get off, you feel like shit. You’ve over-consumed and compared yourself to whomever you saw. You not only feel like you don’t add up; at this point, you really think you don’t add up. This is what I call a COMPARISON HANGOVER. Your head hurts, you’re pissed you wasted so much time, and you’ve decided that your life really does suck.
Tips For Social Media Sanity
I don’t expect you to go all rogue like me and completely disengage, but I do want you to enjoy your engagement. I want your time scrolling social media to have positive, energizing effects on YOU!
Below are some of my best social media tips:
- Engage in purposeful consumption. In other words, be specific as to why and where you are going on social media. Want to see your friend's wedding pics? Go, look, then leave. Decorating your house? Go to Pinterest, peruse, then leave.
- Look for uplifting people to follow. Find people who inspire you, make you smile, and laugh.
- Join groups that you can relate to, where people are going through and/or interested in the same things as you. Need support for your diabetes? There's a group for that. Looking for Instapot recipes? There's a group for that. Want to slay your stress? Join my FB here.
- Engage in and make connections with people who make you happy. You don't have to accept every friend request.
- Mess up, don't worry about it, and move on. This just happened to me last week when I posted, "Well, it's Friday, so theres that." My intention was basically just hey, it's Friday, so THAT'S GOOD, BUT hours later I realized I did the theres/there's spelling error. This is punishable by death in some places. 😉 Personally, I think "theres" is meant for those times when something not planned or annoying happens, as in I stepped in dog poop, so theres that!
- Take digital breaks. Turn off your notification settings, so you aren't constantly distracted.
- Completely turn off and disengage from time to time and just be free.
Social media can be an awesome and welcome addition to your life, but you have to prevent yourself from getting sucked into the vortex! Let me know if these tips help you stay sane out there!
Before I leave you until next week, I want to encourage you to get out there on social media if you have been waiting in the shadows. I know you have something amazing to say!
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