Life is full of decisions surrounding how, when, & where to pursue goals and projects that are important to us. At 48, I can tell you that this decision-making process never goes away. They say that working hard for something you love is called passion while working hard for something you don't is called stress. I don't think truer words have ever been spoken. The catch 22, however, is that many people do not stop "working" long enough to look up and truly notice the difference.
For me personally, I have been chock-full of passion over the last several months, preparing and launching my newest course, The fit mind Formula. Because this project was huge for me, I want to share part of my journey with you…including some lessons I've learned.
Quick back story: The Fit Mind Formula has been a vision of mine for a long time. As I've shared before, this course presents a way to bring coaching to women in a different, more accessible format. From the start, I had faith in this idea, a burning desire to help women in a unique way. I am very proud of my finished program, but it was not an altogether easy journey. There was lots of decision-making along the way!
Here are three things that stand out the most:
Decision-Making: Signs Do Not Precede Our Steps of Faith & Hard Work, They Follow
Hence the term hindsight is 20/20. Listen up all of you planners out there, you cannot know what you cannot know. Ladies, the only way to fully learn is to get in the arena. We have to go for it. Go through it, come out and then look back and see. Now that my "baby" has launched out to the big ol' world, I can ask questions I didn't know just two weeks ago. (I've put them together here in this 30-sec survey, please feel free to take)
Take Away: The only way to fully learn is to pull the string and jump.
Decision-Making: Get Your Priorities In Check
My newest course is a passion of mine, so I was excited to work hard and develop the program. That does not mean I didn't get dog ass tired in the process. In order to maintain my heightened work schedule for the few weeks before my cart opening, I made sure my priorities were in check. Meaning, I planned ahead as much as I could for what I had to personally do during that time.
- Dinners: who is cooking, ordering in, etc.
- Obligations: who can take my youngest to his extracurricular activities
- Family wedding in the middle: outfits dry cleaned, new clothing bought, etc. weeks ahead of time
So I was prepared, BUT
I was still aware that the stupid ass old gremlin of resistance, would show up and try to knock me off my game. Which, of course, he did. Remember, he sneaks up out of nowhere, presenting something "urgent," typically packaged as things we are asked to take care of that help achieve someone else's goals. And yes, they came up for me big time. Even my best-laid plans were peppered with "urgent" matters. More than once, I said, "I'm sorry, I cant." Not easy, but necessary.
Take away: Know ahead of time what you can know ahead of time.
Spend time before you begin your project on planning:
- What you usually have to do, then make as many arrangements as possible to support this
- Plan that "urgent" matters WILL come up. Be prepared with what you are going to say and do with urgent requests. Remember your choices are: 1.) decline 2.) postpone (use this one cautiously, you DO NOT want to postpone something you will only regret later) 3.) ask someone else to take care of it.
Decision-Making: Self-Care is Paramount Before, During, and After a Big Event. Plan Accordingly
Listen up, ladies, the human body is pretty badass, but that does not mean it was meant to run on fumes! Every day and especially leading up to a big event, we must invest in the care of our bodies. For me, I made sure I did not skip working out, eating well, and water...lots and lots of water. Decision-making can't rob us of what is really important!
In the last couple of weeks, because something had to give with my time, I did suspend my workouts. Knowing that I couldn't make 25 hours from 24! All in all, it would be absolutely tragic if my working hard for what I was once passionate about turned into stress, because I didn't take care of myself.
Take Away: It is never okay to abandon self-care. Amend as needed, but do not abandon.
So there you have it, the good, bad, and truth of my last month…here's to knowing what we know and what we don't! I hope these tips help your decision making in the future! 🙂
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